A New Relationship Model for Entrepreneurs.
A Healthy Personal Relationship Makes You a Better Entrepreneur.
According to the Kauffman Foundation, nearly 71% of all entrepreneurs are married.
In a previous blog, I discussed the fact that business productivity is negatively impacted by unresolved marital problems and that, conversely, people who are successful in their marriage / partnership earn more money (not to mention live longer).
It goes without saying that as an entrepreneur you want to maximize your business profitability. Therefore, it would make sense that if you are an unhappily married/ partnered entrepreneur, you should seek out professional counseling to prevent any toxic relationship spillover into your work.
Sounds easy enough. But not so fast!
There is a growing body of research indicating that when entrepreneurs recognize their stress and reach out for help, they attempt to address either their work burnout or their relationship conflict, but not both.
The problem with this is that it denies the fact that work and personal relationships are always interacting and impacting one another.
Relationship counseling is a billion dollar industry and full of self-proclaimed experts offering conflicting advice.
- Should you take the advice of a professional person who may not understand the interplay of Work and personal life?
- Should you head straight for a bookstore’s self-help aisle?
- Should you attend a seminar?
Where do you start? The answer is Yours, Mine, Ours: Romantic Partnership Done Right, a ground breaking approach to healthy partnering that offers entrepreneurs a new relationship skill set and a new way of thinking.
Yours, Mine, Ours: Romantic Partnership Done Right
It Takes Three to Make a Relationship
Typically, we think of a relationship as consisting of two people – “you” and “your” Partner. Yours, Mine, Ours has identified a third entity “the Partnership” or “we”. What does this triad look like?
- It consists of two individuals (“i” and “you”) and the life they share between them (we).
- Each individual has a unique identity separate from the relationship.
- Each individual must understand and share him-/herself openly and honestly with their partner and grant their partner the right to have their own feelings, needs, and viewpoints, which will be different from their own.
- Partnership problem-solving is about cooperation, not competition where one person wins and the other loses.
What Makes Yours, Mine, Ours Different from Other Relationship Models?
There are two major differences:
- Unlike other partnership models, which address either the individual’s issues and dynamics or the couple’s issues and dynamics, Yours, Mine, Ours addresses both. My partnership model will simultaneously assist you in the development of your individual identity (as an entrepreneur and beyond) as well as teach you how to bring that unique self into the partnership so that together you and your partner can develop a healthy “we,” which will contribute positively to your business success.
- Yours, Mine, Ours is always mindful of the ongoing impact that your business is having on your personal relationship and vice versa. Other models do not recognize their continuous interplay.
The Vital Role of Your Significant Other Entrepreneurs often ask me if it is possible to simultaneously have a successful relationship with both their company and their spouse/partner. The first thing I tell them is yes, but that it is hard work.
The good news, however, is that it is worth it! How do I know that? Extensive research on the subject of relationships and business/careers shows that
People in successful relationships not only make more money, they’re also healthier and live longer.
Yours, Mine, Ours is uniquely designed to help you to simultaneously balance your needs, your partner’s needs, and the needs of your relationship with the end goal of a strong relationship that empowers a thriving business.
In my next blog I will take a closer look at the characteristics of Yours, Mine, Ours and offer you some insights into how as an entrepreneur you can develop healthy intimacy with your significant other.