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Is It Ever Okay To Lie In A Relationship?

Is It Ever Okay To Lie In A Relationship?

Introduction All of us remember the story of Pinocchio and the role honesty played in his life. In order for Pinocchio, a marionette, to become the real boy he longed to be, first he had to prove that he had true values. However, the blue fairy warned him about lying,...

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WHEN ONE OF YOUR CLOSEST FRIEND’S DIES

When I spoke to Linda on Christmas day, that version of me could not possibly know the loss I was about to experience 6 weeks later in February, when she died of Covid 19.  Of course, I know that none of us is invincible, and that experiencing loss binds all human...

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Everything You Want To Know About Sex During The Pandemic

Everything You Want To Know About Sex During The Pandemic

Can Coronavirus spread through sex?  Well, No--and--Yes, the experts tell us. Can one stay 6 feet apart from their partner with a mask on and have great sex? Mmmmm. My single clients often ask me if it is safe to start a new relationship or to have safe sex in an era...

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Life Lessons We Can Learn from the Elderly

Life Lessons We Can Learn from the Elderly

Why write a blog about the elderly? Most of us don’t like to think about aging. In fact, we try to avoid it. However, I have discovered that this view about the elderly is needlessly negative and that, in fact, the oldest people can teach all of us, regardless of age,...

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Feeling Your Feelings Makes You Stronger

Feeling Your Feelings Makes You Stronger

I grew up in a family of rational, left-brained people. I prided myself on keeping my emotions in check and remaining cool and collected. Then, anxiety struck me with a vengeance, and I ended up on an analyst’s couch 3 days a week in my early 20’s. My client, Joe, who...

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Hope: My Gift To You In 2021

Hope: My Gift To You In 2021

Introduction Years ago, I lost my ability to hope. I had sustained a major loss, and the pain seemed unmanageable. I waited and waited, hoping the agony would evaporate. Just at the point where I could see no way out, I looked up at the blue sky and saw Hope. The sky...

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The Pandemic Thanksgiving

The Pandemic Thanksgiving

I think most of us can agree that 2020 has been a year we won’t look back on fondly.  Rather, it’s a year that we’re all collectively just trying to get through.  Our lives are different, internally and externally, due to the devastation of the pandemic. If you are...

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The Art of Listening

The Art of Listening

Introduction One would profoundly hope that the Coronavirus, a killer disease, would “bring us together” as a nation.  Instead, it has served less to unite us than to underscore what divides us.  Reading daily about this deepening, widespread national polarization has...

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Panic And Stress Of The Pandemic

Panic And Stress Of The Pandemic

Introduction I just finished a session with a client who is very caught up in the panic and stress of the pandemic and the uncertainty of the world around us. Listen, I get it.  Life is tough right now.  We’re all taking a beating and it’s hard not to wallow in these...

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Most Important Ingredient of a Successful Relationship

Most Important Ingredient of a Successful Relationship

Introduction If I were to ask you to name the single most important factor that you believe contributes to a rewarding and successful romantic relationship, you might well argue that empathy, communication, trust, or perhaps sex is the most essential. While these,...

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