“It takes three, not two, to make a healthy relationship: two independent, autonomous individuals and the life they share between them.”

To the extent that one feels separate and whole, he or she also feels complete. If an individual does not experience a clearly defined identity they will develop a problematic dependency on another person in order to feel complete. My individual counseling is aimed toward helping you to understand your personal history and its contribution to where you are stuck, and then to assist you in developing your individuality. A healthy partnership cannot exist without having a clear sense of Self.

What makes a healthy intimacy? A relationship can only be as good as the individuals in it. If both people have a unique identity with clear-cut boundaries separate from the relationship, they are in a position to create the third entity, a dynamic partnership. The goal of my couples counseling is to help them to remain separate but connected.


It takes three to create an excellent relationship; I, You, We.  All three entities must be simultaneously nurtured.


  • I” – A relationship is only as good as the individuals in it.  I will help you to develop your “Self.”
  • You” – Your partner is a separate individual from you.  I will help you to honor the differences
  • We” – Partners in happy relationships experience security and trust with one another so they can bring their “I” honestly into the partnership.



  • Better communication of your needs
  • A stronger sense of Self
  • Self-acceptance
  • Personal responsibility for a meaningful life


  • Respect for your partner’s uniqueness
  • Investment in your partner’s growth
  • Unconditional value of your partner


  • A compatible “We
  • Knowledge of what is yours and respect for what is not
  • How to negotiate conflicts

By using the telephone and telecommunications technology (Skype & Vsee),

Dr. Hecker connects and communicates with her clients throughout the United States and abroad.

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