# Relationships Shrink – Online Relationships Therapist

> Dr. Deborah Hecker, Ph.D. is a licensed psychoanalyst and relationships expert offering online individual and couples counseling. She is the creator of the "Yours, Mine, Ours: Relationships Done Right" model and the author of three books on relationships and entrepreneurship. She has 38+ years of clinical experience, graduate training from Columbia University and The Union Institute, and specializes in helping individuals and couples develop strong identities and healthy partnerships.

## About

- [About Dr. Deborah Hecker](https://relationshipsshrink.com/about/): Background, personal story, professional training, and the inspiration behind the Yours, Mine, Ours counseling model. Dr. Hecker is trained in psychoanalysis, mediation, collaborative law practice, grief recovery, and addictions.

## Services

- [Counseling Process / Method](https://relationshipsshrink.com/counseling-process/): Overview of the "Yours, Mine, Ours: Relationships Done Right" model — a unique framework focused on building two strong individuals who form a great partnership.
- [Counseling for Individuals](https://relationshipsshrink.com/counseling-for-individuals/): One-on-one therapy focused on personal identity, self-awareness, boundaries, and emotional independence.
- [Counseling for Couples](https://relationshipsshrink.com/counseling-for-couple/): Couples therapy emphasizing mutual respect, communication, and bringing two well-defined individuals into a healthy partnership.
- [Counseling for Divorcing Clients](https://relationshipsshrink.com/counseling-process-for-divorcing-clients/): Specialized support for clients going through divorce, addressing emotional intelligence, identity, grief, and post-divorce rediscovery.
- [Entrepreneurial Counseling](https://relationshipsshrink.com/entrepreneurial-counseling/): Relationship counseling tailored to entrepreneurs and business co-owners navigating the unique stresses of balancing business and romantic partnerships.

## Relationship Advice & Blog

- [Relationship Advice Tips](https://relationshipsshrink.com/advice/): Expert Q&A and practical advice for modern relationship challenges submitted by readers.
- [Blog / Insight](https://relationshipsshrink.com/blog/): Articles and insights on relationships, love, divorce, and personal growth.

### Featured Blog Posts

- [The Best Relationship Advice](https://relationshipsshrink.com/2025/07/11/the-best-relationship-advice): Scientifically backed tips to strengthen and improve all types of personal relationships.
- [Romantic Relationships Are Complicated](https://relationshipsshrink.com/2025/08/12/romantic-relationships-are-complicated): Explains the complexities of romantic relationships and offers counseling options for couples facing difficulties.
- [Real Need for Human Connection](https://relationshipsshrink.com/2025/12/01/real-need-for-human-connection): Highlights the importance of human connection and professional therapy over AI chatbots for mental health.
- [Recognizing Dysfunctional Relationships](https://relationshipsshrink.com/2023/10/19/recognizing-dysfunctional-relationships): How to identify signs and solutions for dysfunctional relationships to promote healthier partnerships.
- [Dealing with Separation and Divorce](https://relationshipsshrink.com/2023/08/03/dealing-with-separation-and-divorce): Guidance on coping with separation and divorce to aid emotional recovery and self-rediscovery.
- [When You're Both Hurting](https://relationshipsshrink.com/2023/09/15/when-youre-both-hurting): Relationship advice on managing mutual emotional triggers and fostering understanding during conflict.
- [Should You Divorce or Save Your Marriage?](https://relationshipsshrink.com/2018/08/15/should-you-divorce-or-save-your-marriage): Guides individuals in deciding between divorce and saving their marriage through emotional, financial, and relational insights.
- [How Will I Benefit from Divorce Counseling?](https://relationshipsshrink.com/2018/09/11/how-will-i-benefit-from-divorce-counseling): Explains the benefits and process of divorce counseling for emotional healing and personal growth.
- [How Do I Know If I Need Divorce Counseling?](https://relationshipsshrink.com/2018/09/11/how-do-i-know-if-i-need-divorce-counseling): Guides individuals in recognizing signs they need divorce counseling.
- [It's Not Me, It's You](https://relationshipsshrink.com/2022/03/12/it-s-not-me-it-s-you): Encourages self-reflection and improving relationship dynamics by understanding personal behaviors and emotional sensitivities.
- [Dear Dr. Deb Advice Column](https://relationshipsshrink.com/2022/09/05/dr-deb-advice-column): Empathetic responses to common personal relationship dilemmas.
- [Love at First Sight](https://relationshipsshrink.com/love-at-first-sight/): Explores the validity and emotional impact of love at first sight in relationships.
- [Mr. Right Misses the Mark](https://relationshipsshrink.com/mr-right-misses-the-mark/): Relationship advice on overcoming emotional and intellectual disconnects for long-term happiness.
- [Love and Marriage… and Money](https://relationshipsshrink.com/love-and-marriage-and-money/): Advice on managing finances and addressing cultural and emotional issues between partners.
- [Should I Marry My (Functional) Alcoholic Fiancé?](https://relationshipsshrink.com/should-i-marry-my-functional-alcoholic-fiance/): Guides individuals on assessing and managing relationships with functional alcoholics, emphasizing professional help and self-care.
- [Finding Answers in Furry Places](https://relationshipsshrink.com/2024/01/26/finding-answers-in-furry-places): Explores the healing bond between humans and dogs and its emotional and therapeutic benefits.
- [The Ripple Effect of Generosity](https://relationshipsshrink.com/2023/12/01/ripple-effect-of-generosity): Highlights the importance and practical ways to cultivate everyday generosity for personal and community well-being.

## Books

- [Who Am I Without My Partner?](https://www.amazon.com/Without-Partner-Post-Divorce-Healing-Rediscovering/dp/0615772005): A guide to post-divorce healing and rediscovering yourself, with psychological tools and tips for navigating romantic loss.
- [Torn Between Two Loves](https://www.amazon.com/Torn-Between-Two-Loves-Entrepreneurs/dp/0692759905/): How entrepreneurs can successfully commit to both their business and their significant other, with insights on profitability, productivity, and relationships.
- [The Entrepreneur's Shrink](https://relationshipsshrink.com/email-capture/): A free book on how romantic relationships can survive and thrive under the stresses of entrepreneurship.

## Contact

- [Contact Dr. Hecker](https://relationshipsshrink.com/contact/): Schedule a consultation or send a question. Email: deb@drdeborahhecker.com | Phone: (202) 256-4669