Solving Relationship Problems For
Divorcing Clients,  Individuals & Couples
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Divorce Counseling for people contemplating divorce, in the middle of the legal process, or struggling through its aftermath.

Couples Counseling for people having marital conflicts and relationship problems.

Individual Counseling for people coping with major life challenges or childhood trauma and dealing with depression or anxiety.

How Can I Help You?

Divorcing Clients

  • Stuck in the pain?
  • Grieving the loss of your marriage?
  • Looking to redefine who you are and what the future holds post-divorce?
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Individuals & Couples

  • Unclear about your own needs?
  • Fear of your “I” getting lost in the “We?”
  • Difficulty negotiating your and your partner’s differences?
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One size does not fit all.

I am always considering ways to make my substantive, goal oriented counseling services more available and appealing to my clients.

The world of telecommunications has widened its reach to enable traditional
in-person counseling to be adapted to more readily accessible and convenient client choices, like video conferencing and the telephone.

Counseling Process

Divorcing Clients

  • Choose to turn your loss into gain
  • Re-define your identity as an individual
  • Create a new model of healthy partnering
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Individuals & Couples

  • It Takes Three To Create An Excellent Relationship “I, You, We”
  • Your partner is a separate individual from you. To honor the differences, my counseling will help you
  • I will help you forge a compatible “we” that supports your love bond
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Meet Dr. Deborah Hecker

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A respected psychoanalyst, Dr. Deborah Hecker has developed a cutting-edge relationship model she calls 
“Yours, Mine, Ours: Romantic Partnership Done Right”. Her innovative approach assists clients in simultaneously developing their individual identities while teaching them how to successfully integrate that unique identity into their partnerships.

She integrates both inner personal dynamics with inter-personal skills for individuals going through separation and divorce. She also specializes in helping committed careerists and business people to negotiate boundaries for their work and their personal relationships.Read More


Divorce – We Are Almost Divorced

When I was going through my divorce, my Dad, a corporate attorney, told me the following; “Everybody wins and everybody loses.” At the time, I was too caught up in the war to be able to grasp the meaning of that wisdom. 

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More On The "Panic Of The I

One of my clients aptly referred to his post-divorce aloneness as the “panic of the I.” He compared his feelings to those of a toddler who feels the world is safe and friendly until his mother turns out the light and leaves him alone to face the boogeyman.

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Entrepreneur's Relationship Blog

How many of you mentioned the challenge of trying to build your love relationship while building your company? Are you married to your company—or to your spouse? Is your real relationship at risk?

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Talking on the telephone with Dr. Hecker is like traditional psychoanalysis – no face-to-fact contact. Surprisingly, it allowed me to talk more readily about deeply personal issues, experiences and emotions.
Robert, Ottawa, Canada

My wife and I are busy professionals who travel frequently. The use of video conferencing allows us to keep the continuity of our treatment when we are apart.
Dory and Dan, California

It was impossible for me to find someone in my geographical area who specializes in divorce. Fortunately, I found Dr. Hecker, a divorce expert, and can successfully work with her even though we live miles apart. Two aspects of her professional style stand out; She never prejudiced me toward staying with my husband or not. She helped me to understand my own needs. Secondly, Dr. Hecker has a tremendous work ethic.
— Samantha, Dubai