Divorce & Separation Counseling · 35+ Years of Experience
Divorce Counseling Online - and the healing that comes after
Divorce ends a marriage. It shouldn't end your sense of who you are. Dr. Deborah Hecker is a psychotherapist and divorce counselor with more than 35 years of experience helping individuals and couples navigate separation, divorce, and the work of rediscovering yourself on the other side.
Two Specialties, One Focus
Counseling most therapists don't offer
Most divorce counseling stops at coping. My practice is built around two deeper questions few therapists specialize in.
Post-Divorce Identity Recovery
"Who am I without my partner?" After years of being half of a couple, divorce can leave you grieving not just a marriage but a self. I wrote the book on this - literally. My work guides you through the grief, untangles your identity from the marriage, and helps you build a life that is fully, recognizably yours.
Start rediscovering yourself →Divorce Counseling for Entrepreneurs & High Achievers
Driven professionals are married twice - to their partner and to their work. When those two marriages collide, the fallout is unique: guilt, resentment, and a divorce that threatens the business as well as the family. I help entrepreneurs and careerists separate well, protect what they've built, and stop repeating the pattern.
Counseling built for your reality →Services
How we can work together
Divorce & Separation Counseling
For individuals and couples deciding whether to divorce, or navigating separation with clarity instead of chaos - including discernment work when one of you wants out and the other doesn't.
Post-Divorce Recovery Therapy
Grief work, identity rebuilding, and preparing for healthy future relationships after the papers are signed. Based on the framework in Who Am I Without My Partner?
Couples & Relationship Counseling
My "Yours, Mine, Ours: Partnership Done Right" model - for couples who want to repair the marriage rather than end it, and for co-parents building a working partnership after divorce.
About Dr. Hecker
35+ years helping people end marriages well - and begin lives well
I am a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist who has spent more than three decades in private practice. My training combines depth psychology with practical couples work, which means we don't just manage your symptoms - we identify the root causes and replace damaging patterns with constructive ones.
I believe relationships fail for two primary reasons: partners hand responsibility for their own growth and happiness to each other, and few of us were ever taught the principles of healthy partnering. Divorce, handled well, is a chance to learn both.
Who Am I Without My Partner?
Post-Divorce Healing and Rediscovering Your SELF - Dr. Hecker's book guides readers through the dynamics of individuality before, during, and after divorce, and the essentials of great relationships.
Client Words
What clients say
"I discovered the answers to two important questions: Did I marry the wrong person? What do I need to do to make my partnership a success? Dr. Hecker's process helped me understand myself and finally learn what a healthy relationship is about."
- Lee, Connecticut"I was absolutely convinced my marriage would not survive my involvement in my prospering business. Fortunately, Dr. Hecker proved me wrong. She helped me enrich my marriage and keep me on top of my game."
- Chris, Ohio"I live in a remote area where it is very difficult to find a seasoned therapist. Dr. Hecker's therapy options are perfect for my needs."
- Samuel, West VirginiaWhere I Practice
Florida
Serving Boca Raton, Delray Beach, Highland Beach, and all of South Florida.
Washington, DC
Licensed in the District of Columbia. Online divorce counseling and psychotherapy for DC-area individuals and couples.
Online Therapy
Secure video and phone sessions throughout Florida and Washington, DC - seasoned therapy wherever you are.
Common Questions
Divorce counseling, answered
What is divorce counseling, and do I need it?
Divorce counseling supports you before, during, or after a divorce - helping you make the decision clearly, separate with less damage, and heal afterward. If divorce is on the table or already behind you and you feel stuck, it can help.
Do you see couples, or just individuals?
Both. I work with individuals at any stage of divorce, and with couples - whether they're trying to save the marriage, separate constructively, or build a healthy co-parenting relationship.
How do online sessions work?
Sessions are held by secure video or phone. Clients throughout Florida and Washington, DC - and those who prefer the privacy and convenience of meeting from home - find online work every bit as effective.
What makes your approach different?
Depth. My psychoanalytic training means we address root causes, not just symptoms. And my two specialties - post-divorce identity recovery and counseling for divorcing entrepreneurs - are areas few therapists focus on.
You don't have to navigate this alone
Whether you're deciding, divorcing, or rebuilding - the first step is a conversation.
Email Dr. HeckerOr text 850.601.0739